If you have spent any time experimenting with BDSM, you will encounter the concept of the “hard limit”. You likely also heard about its close relative the “soft limit”. While they are both refer to limitations placed on the activities … continue reading “Hard Limits and Soft Limits”
One of the banes of a Dominatrix’s existence is same-day cancelations. The reason We loathe this is because it’s guaranteed to cost Us and mess things up. Sometimes in more ways than people may have ever considered.
You may not … continue reading “What Does It Mean To Cancel Same-Day?”
… continue reading “Article: Can Bondage Play Reduce Anxiety?”“It feels like an opportunity to completely let go and to be completely present at the same time,” said Gorgone, a 22-year-old Shibari model who was tied up that night. “There’s a certain release from anxiety you get from it.
Periodically, when someone requests a session with Me they will give Me a detailed description of exactly how they expect Me to run it. I immediately feel objectified and angry. I feel like they don’t trust My knowledge, My skills, … continue reading “Sharing Your Interests Versus Giving a Script”
… continue reading “Article: BDSM as Harm Reduction”“As I’ve indicated in a number of other articles, recent robust research has found no correlation between BDSM and pathology, and indeed the research that attempted to connect BDSM to trauma often had underlying deeply flawed and biased methodologies,